The Need TO LOVE: A RESPONSE IN CAVEAT TO CHAPMAN AND OTHERS


Bible verses confirming that we need to love our own selves:
Bible verses confirming that we need to be loved by God:
Bible verses confirming that we need to be loved by others:
Bible verses confirming that we need to love God and others:
Galatians 2:20; II Thessalonians 2:16John 13:34,35; 15:12,17; Romans 12:10; 13:8; I Thessalonians 3:12; 4:9; Hebrews 10:24; I Peter 1:22; 4:8; I John 3:11, 23; 4:7, 11,12
Love is a strong theme in the Bible.
Did God long ago fail to outline our need to receive human love?



  Call A Nurse?
A nurse may be brought in to care for a newborn. She may do so absent maternal love for the child, conditional in that she will provide care, meet needs and express affection toward the infant. If love is truly requisite, how could such an arrangement ever be regarded as acceptable?

Since we fully regard what God has defined/instructed, children and adults do not have a specific need to receive human love, as we understand the paternal love of God to be super-dominant. Even from Genesis 2:18, man's need does not exist in to be loved. It is a given, though not as a need, in that he is and will be loved by God.

From the many Bible references describing the need to love (God and others), two love needs can be understood:
1. To be loved by God.
2. To love God and others.
The need to be loved by God is completed in the being and purpose of God Himself. He never falls short in His great love for us, each one.

The need to love God and others is with the youngest of children, and in the elder-est of adults. We must acquire and learn the ability to love for our love need to be filled. No inverse requisite from the Bible has yet been found.

  Five Love Languages?
In the popular "The Five Love Languages" series, Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell outline five languages or communication modes in the demonstration of love. The Love Languages premise is offered to their readers with a look to building self-worth and the satisfaction of emotional needs. Summarily, the five Chapman languages with contra:

1. Physical Touch
To touch someone is to invite response(s) in thought, emotion and physiology. Touch need not be reserved to physical contacts, as we may be especially touched through observing actions with empathy or compassion. It is in the giving or offering of physical touch that love or affection may by means of closeness be expressed.
2. Words of Affirmation
Affirmation (positive assertion) would be a more narrow approach against what is described for us in Proverbs 25:11 as "a word spoken in right circumstances." When we "encourage one another" [ref: I Thessalonians 5:11; Hebrews 3:13, etc.], we always in love exercise truth. From the Bible, we know thoughtful honesty to provide more advantage for child or adult than volumes of positive assertions. Truth fitly spoken builds upon security and maturity, and it is something we know need to give to others in love.
3. Quality Time
We can know unbroken security vis--vis quality time with God. The trial of men has long included our relentless attempts to substitute something - anything for that same quality time. Love willingly gives (among many things) quality time, while declining to feed self-interest and human dependencies. We elect to spend quality time with others as an act of love, and in directing attention to the One for whom our own security depends.
4. Gifts
Love gives. When receiving a gift that is given in love, such love has no benefit unless (until) a love-giving response takes hold in the recipient. Such a benefit is well beyond simple gratitude.
5. Acts of Service
Service may be an expression from love. Yet, service at a fine restaurant may be given absent godly love. We know the need (and call) to serve God and others.
  The Object and the Objective
The object of unfailing love will ever be in God. Even when we love others, we love with, by, for and through our Father in heaven. We love Him because He first loved us. When the object or objective of love is taken by us to furnish what we would desire for ourselves (or from someone else… even from a child or a spouse), love is then named for something it is not: manipulation. Will our love compliment the description found in I Corinthians 13?

  2 from 1: Understanding Love
Love as affection or devotion is commonly undertaken independent of the largest circle of love: true love of God. The result brings a roller coaster of bends and loops, ups and downs, with an eventual return to where we began. The following may help to illustrate how actions and emotions of love will find their faithful source in a well-defined, more excellent love from God:

Ahav (Ahab) — Love & Affection
Strong's #157-160
The love (emotions and actions) one gives to the family that one is privileged with.
A family-love-covenant bond [Nehemiah 1:5] with inclusion/adoption [Isaiah 56:6] even as Ruth determined [Ruth 1:16-18].


Agapè — Commissioned, Covenant, Cognitive Love

Philia — Relational Affection & Devotion

Strong's #25,26
Is long-suffering, kind, rejoices with the truth, bears all things, trusts for all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Is not jealous, doesn't brag, not arrogant, acts with delineation, does not seek its own interests, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered.
Agapè never fails.

• I John 4
• Agapè commissioned [Jude 1:21]
• Agapè for one another, and for all men [I Thessalonians 3:12]
• Agapè is the perfect bond of unity [Colossians 3:14]
• Agapè for wives [Ephesians 5:28-33; Colossians 3:19]
• Steady, speaking the truth in Agapè [Ephesians 4:15-16]
• Agapè of Christ controls us [II Corinthians 5:14]
• Agapè confirmed for a man turned over to Satan for destruction of his flesh [I Corinthians 5:1-5; II Corinthians 2:8]
>Strong's #5358-5364,5368,5373,5384
Where Christians cherish one another as brethren.
• Philia as affection. [John 11:3]
• Philia as the world loves. [John 15:19]
• Young women to Philia their husband and children. [Titus 2:4]
Let Agapè be without hypocrisy…be devoted to one another in Philia.
Romans 12:9,10
Now as to the Agapè of the brethren…you are taught by God to Philia one another.
I Thessalonians 4:9

Deuteronomy 6:5 & Leviticus 19:18 & Matthew 22:36-40

LOVE LAW 1Love the Lord God

LOVE LAW 2Love Your Neighbor

absolute:ALL your heart
ALL your soul
ALL your mind/strength
relative:AS yourself